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Are you using abusive behaviors?

Abuse is not only about violence. It includes behaviors that give you control over your partner and creates an unequal and unhealthy balance of power in the relationship. How do you know if you are being abusive to your partner? Are you doing any of the following?

  • Do you constantly check up on your partner? Call many times a day, check the mileage on the car, monitor calls, and ask where your partner has been and where she/he is going?
  • Do you keep your partner away from family and friends?
  • Do you try to keep your partner from going out – even to work or school?
  • Do you criticize what he or she wears, does, says. Do you make your partner think they are crazy?
  • Do you make your partner think THEY are at fault for things going on in YOUR life?
  • Do you threaten to hurt your partner or people he/she cares about?
  • Do you make your partner do sexual things in ways or in places which are uncomfortable for him/her?
  • Do you shove, grab, slap, strangle or otherwise physically abuse your partner?
  • Do you try to make him/her believe you did not hurt or scare her/him and that the concerns about your behavior or not valid?

If you answered yes to even one of these questions, you may be controlling your partner. It is possible to change and replace these behaviors with healthy alternatives.

To get help, contact us at 207-795-6744 ext 21 to discuss our Batterers Intervention Program or to discuss ways to stop these actions.